There is an old saying that goes something like this:
If you think you are enlightened go spend the holidays with your family.
It isn’t that there is something wrong with Your family; it’s that your family knows what buttons to push on your console. Your family knows what will and won’t light you up. Your family has a dynamic that you have been trying to navigate (both successfully and unsuccessfully) for the last few decades.
It’s easy to maintain your calm and considered demeanor in your daily life. You get to set your life up in ways that fuel your highest aspirations. You keep people around you who inspire and help you find your highest and best.
You don’t get to pick your family though. You don’t get to kick out the ones who are way less than inspiring or who are actually people you would never choose to hang out with. You are stuck with them; they are the ones who are here to really challenge your aspirations.
In those stressful moments with our families is when we can find true peace and contentment. In those moments we can find peace when we are no longer resisting any feeling or thought no matter if it is positive or negative. My family is my family, it is up to me to decide how I will react and find the peace no matter what they do.
Enlightenment is found in my every day not just in the quiet moments of self reflection.
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